Before You Help Someone Else Help Yourself First

There are people who really love to help others. There are people who wanted to give their best for the sake of the one they love. But as much as we wanted to offer some help. We also need to rest and put ourselves first before someone else. If we fail to take good care of ourselves, we won’t be able to help others in the long run.

Taking good care of yourself doesn’t mean being selfish. It doesn’t mean that you are ignoring the people around you. It simply means that you need to take some rest and give some time for yourself. Time to think. Time to reflect about your experiences. Time to talk to God and listen to the deepest part of your heart.

After all, if we don’t know how to take good care of ourselves, we won’t be able to take good care of others. We will find it hard to connect to them. We will find it hard to genuinely help them. So if you are not feeling okay right now, if you are struggling and still managed to help and comfort others, then you must’ve been a very strong person because you are still able to help them despite of what you’ve been going through. But please don’t forget yourself. If they need some help, then you need someone who will be there for you also.

There are people who love to help others but they already forgot to help themselves. People around them think that they are so happy and strong for they are able to share what they have to others but they don’t know that deep inside, people who are offering themselves are slowly dying deep within. If you feel the same thing right now, then it’s time for you to deal with it first before reaching out to others.

You may find yourself feeling relieved every time you help others but whether you like it or not, sooner or later you will feel empty because you didn’t take good care of yourself. Helping yourself means taking time to recover from pain. Allow others to help you. Allow your friends or loved ones to comfort you. We all need each other.

Don’t fight the battle all alone. No man is an island. If you need some help, then you need to acknowledge it. You need to be vulnerable sometimes so that people can genuinely connect to you. The moment you can finally say to yourself that you are fully healed, that’s the perfect time for you to offer yourself to others. Only then you will realize that people around you learned something valuable because of the things you’ve been through.