How to respond to the Hurtful words you Hear from others?

Meanwhile, Jesus stood before the governor, and the governor asked him, “Are you the king of the Jews?” “You have said so,” Jesus replied. When he was accused by the chief priests and the elders, he gave no answer. Then Pilate asked him, “Don’t you hear the testimony they are bringing against you?” But Jesus made no reply, not even to a single charge—to the great amazement of the governor.

Matthew 27: 11-14,NIV

Most of the time, when we hear painful words from others, we can’t help but argue and explain ourselves to them, but let’s take a deeper look at Jesus’ approach the moment He received hurtful words and false accusations from other people. When He was brought to Pilate, He was asked if He was the King of the Jews. But Jesus answered, “You have said so.” He didn’t say yes or no, but He acknowledged that those are the words of the governor and not His words.

Sometimes, when we hear hurtful words from others, we tend to believe them, especially when it comes from the people we love. But you need to remember what Jesus did. Know that the words you hear are not your identity. It’s their words and not God’s words for you. You need to recognize the voice you hear. Choose to listen to God alone because He is your creator. He knows who you truly are. So if, by chance, people are accusing you of something you are not. Then come to God and listen to His voice.

When the chief priest and elders accused Jesus, He didn’t answer. If you don’t know how to deal with the painful words you heard, it’s better to just remain silent. Answering them will not stop them from hurting you. Sometimes, you need to let go and surrender them to God. Know that He is with you, and He understands your heart. When the people talking to you is still at the peak of their emotions, it’s better to keep quiet and just imagine that God is there, comforting you.

With a humble heart, submit to Him all the hurtful words you heard and let Him heal your wounds. You don’t have to explain yourself to them. Come to God and cry out to Him. He will give you rest. When the negative emotions subside, He will teach you how to approach and talk to the people who hurt you.

In the scripture above, we are reminded that not all hurtful words and accusations are meant to be answered. Sometimes, we need to humble ourselves and ask Jesus to help us how to deal with them. We must not rely on our own understanding. Instead, we need to listen to His voice because He holds our true identity.

 Before Jesus was arrested and brought to the governor, He went to the mountain and talked to God. He intently prayed before His suffering. This is a call for us to always connect to our Heavenly Father. We can never control the words that other people say. But if we are protected by our prayers then we will not be easily shaken just like what Jesus’ experienced.