When You Feel Lonely Even When Surrounded By People

Connection—For me, this is the reason why someone still feels lonely even when they are surrounded by people. Those individuals never really felt connected to someone’s heart. Nobody knows who they are, and nobody asks either. So, they felt like statues, physically present but emotionally disconnected.

Every time I feel this way, these are the two things that I usually do:

Connecting to God First

I keep on reminding myself that Someone is interested in knowing more about me. He may see what’s in my heart, but He takes delight in listening to my deepest thoughts and desires. I surrender what I feel to God. I simply pour out everything, including all my negative thoughts and pain. There is no filter. I just want to be honest with what I feel.

I just allow Him to comfort me and remind me of my identity. I let Him heal my wounds and embrace my imperfections. I simply opened my heart and let His love strengthen and empower me. After this, I will be able to take the next step.  

Connecting to Someone

I slowly acknowledge the truth that I can’t do this on my own. So, I tend to look for someone who is available. I admit, it’s hard to spot them. And the weird thing is, those who are also wounded are the ones who can easily connect to what I feel.

God often encouraged me to become vulnerable to certain people. When I started sharing my stories with them, I realized that I was not alone. The reality is that most of the time, the people around me are also looking for someone who can relate to them. And that’s how connection happens.

It takes a brave heart to genuinely approach others and become vulnerable to them. It’s not easy, especially when you are still struggling with trust issues. But the good news is that God will be there to help you. Connect to Him first, and He will teach you how to connect to others. Only then will you realize that you are not alone.