Self Development

You can Express your Anger without Hurting other People

Anger is part of your emotions, and you need to acknowledge it. A suppressed feeling will eventually reflect your behavior, so it’s better to express it in ways that will not hurt others. If you can’t help yourself but feel angry because if somebody’s behavior, then you are free to express it in ways that are aligned to God. Go to a place where you can be alone and talk to Him. Release what you feel, and He will listen to you.

Submit your emotions to your Creator, and He will help you manage them. God can powerfully transform your heart as long as you are humble enough to ask for help. You can’t make it on your own. You need His power and grace so that you’ll be able to handle your feelings. When you encounter His love, you will also learn to be kind to yourself.

Avoid expressing words that you will regret in the end. If you are at the peak of your emotions, don’t speak or say anything that will break someone’s heart. The pain that you feel inside doesn’t give you the permission to hurt others. Choose to control yourself. Go to a place where you can pacify your feelings. Pause for a while and think. If you can’t help it, just kneel to God and pray. Ask for His guidance.

Tell Him that you can’t make it on your own. Above all, let Him reign in your life. Let God be bigger than your emotions. And only then will you learn to control your tongue and glorify Him. It takes a process to successfully overcome that weakness, but be patient and allow yourself to grow. Try again and again. Do not quit until you make it.

Learn to withdraw yourself from places where your anger will be triggered. If you know that a certain person or words can eventually push you to get mad, then try to distance yourself from them. Do it not just to protect your heart, but know that God is watching, and He doesn’t want your anger to lead you to commit sin.

Keep yourself away from potential triggers. Maintain healthy boundaries so that your heart can rest and experience peace. Avoid hurtful confrontation. It’s okay be to be honest if you are not at the peak of your anger. But if you always follow your emotions, you will surely commit so many mistakes. Listen to God and let Him rule in your life, especially in dealing with your anger.

Remember that behind an angry person is a wounded heart. So if you have problems with anger management, then try to check your heart and evaluate the wounds you have. Maybe there are still people you can’t forgive, or you find it hard to release grace to yourself. If that happens, then your anger will always reign and consume your thoughts. So before you experience the worst thing, surrender your pain to God. Let Him mend your wounds and go through the healing process with Him. It won’t be easy. Sometimes, you will feel the pain again and again but just be patient because after that moment, God will renew your heart and you will learn to manage your emotions.

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