You Can’t Change People, but you can Change the Way you see Them

No matter what you do, you can never change the difficult people around you. Transformation is a personal choice that they need to make. So stop blaming them for what happened in your life. It’s not about what people did to you, but it’s about how you see things. Yes, you can’t force someone to change their behavior, but you can absolutely change the way you see them. Ask God, and He will reveal to you how to love them. You need to open the eyes of your heart so that you will learn to value those people the way God did. It won’t be easy at first because you will find it so hard to see them as good people with broken lives, but you will be able to serve and help them if you will just allow God to move.

Treat the people around you as God’s children. Respect and love them. You may find it hard to do it because of the painful things that they did, but the best that you can do is follow the will of God. He called us to love our neighbors as we love ourselves. We are meant to understand each other. Just surrender the pain to God, and He will heal your heart. Sometimes, loving them will not happen in an instant. You need to go through the process. It takes time and effort. But just be patient and remember what God did in your life. His grace is always there, and He always makes you feel so loved and accepted despite all the mistakes you made.

Let God change your perspective. You will never appreciate the people around you if you keep thinking about what they did wrong. Remember that they are not perfect, and just like you, they also go through pain and brokenness in life. You may not know their story, but God sees everything that happened in their lives. He knows the reason why they behaved that way. If you just see the bigger picture, you will realize that we are all broken. And we all need God’s forgiveness and healing. 

Open your heart, and He will teach you how to love. You can’t do it on your own. You need Him to guide you on what to do. Trust in His ways, and you will no longer treat other people as a burden. Instead, God will teach you how to faithfully serve and help them. His love alone can change the heart of a person. So let Him fill your heart so that you will overflow, especially to those people who badly need His love.