You will Understand the person when you Also experience the Same Pain

Maybe you have a lot of questions in your mind right now. You are wondering why toxic people exist. But believe it or not, they became so hard on others because they also experience pain in life. They went through something that they weren’t able to acknowledge. And unknowingly, they passed the pain to you. That’s why you feel so broken because of what they did. Remember that “Hurt people hurt people.” It means that those who went through pain will unconsciously hurt others if they do not acknowledge what they feel and go through the healing process. You will only understand the person in front of you when you also go through the same pain. When you are in their place, you will realize that the roads they need to take are also difficult and challenging.

We live in a broken world. It means that as long as you are alive, you can never avoid pain. It’s part of being human. That’s why the best that you can do is accept this truth and learn to deal with yourself. You can’t control the uncertainties in your life, but you can absolutely manage your response. So when you experience pain because of what other people did, just surrender it all to God and pray that He will teach you how to deal with what you feel and let Him give you a humble heart that’s willing to accept other people’s mistakes. You never really know their whole story and the things that they need to endure.

Just keep on loving them despite what you feel. Talk to God and pray that He will teach you how to deal with other people’s imperfections. Ask for a heart that’s willing to endure and understand their situation. God knows the pain and brokenness that they went through, so consult Him, and He will reveal to you the best thing that you can do. Just never keep things on your own. Let God walk with you along the journey of understanding the people around you.

You will know how difficult it is to handle their situation when you also go through the same pain. So instead of asking too many questions, just let the grace of God reign in your life, and you will have the courage to release love and forgiveness. It will not happen instantly. There are moments when you need to wrestle with yourself and with God. But endure the process because God’s love will surely make you grow and transform you into a better person.