Your Partner Is Not A Healer, Don’t Expect Him To Heal Your Broken Heart

Why did you decide to enter into a romantic relationship? What is your primary purpose? What are your expectations with your partner?

Are you expecting him/her to mend your broken heart? If your answer is yes, then let me remind you about the truth. Your partner is not a healer; please don’t give him/her the burden to heal your heart.

Unknowingly, this is the common mistake that most people do to their partner. They wanted to be happy. They wanted to experience a life that is free from brokenness. And because of those expectations, they never realized that they are already causing pain to their partner.

Sometimes, a person desires to enter a relationship because he/she can’t find love inside his/her home. He or she must have experienced so much pain from family members that made him/her broken on the inside. As a result, the person will want to look for such a kind of love that his/her family never gave and will try to find it in the arms of someone else.

If you are one of those people, then this is a wake-up call for you. Always remember that a broken person will always find it hard to love another person entirely. If you know in your heart that you are not yet totally healed with those people who have hurt you, then please deal with it first before going into another relationship. But in case you have a partner right now, just decide to forgive the person who has badly caused you pain.

You must let go of hatred and unforgiveness because you are not the only person who will suffer from it. There’s a huge possibility that your partner will also feel the pain since he/she is closest to your heart. It’s okay to have scars in your heart. Scars are proof that you are fighting your battles. It’s the evidence that you are a strong person. But make sure that you are healed. Because if not, someone else will suffer, especially the person who dearly loves you.

Your partner deserves the genuine love that you are also looking for. And you can only offer that kind of love if you are healed. Giving them the job to heal your heart would be very unfair. Just like you, they are also human beings who have their fair share of pain and brokenness inside. They also have battles to fight. So instead of placing the burden to your partner, please be the kind of person who will genuinely support and love them without expecting anything in return.

Lastly, if you want to be healed if you are looking for love, then go to the source of LOVE Himself.  He is God. He is the only One who can surely heal you. If you just allow Him to enter your heart, you will experience the love you’ve been searching for all your life. And you can also share His love to the people who are close to your heart.